Articles from May 2011



What should be on every marriage license – the truth!

Just saw this comment by a reader at Mens News Daily.  I agree:

Is there any wonder why there is a silent “marriage strike” going on the US? I propose legislation that every marriage license have on it the following statements:

If you are a man and intend to marry, this is what can befall you if you divorce:

1. Loss of all assets, income, pensions, and probably career.

2. Loss of relationship with your children (if any) to the point they are alienated and will probably never see you again because mom wants to raise them her way, or get re-married and give the children a new daddy!

3. If you are falsely accused of domestic violence, which is a well-known tactic in divorce, it will be an automatic divorce essentially, where the female will win custody of the children, all the money in the form of child support and alimony (if married more than 5-7 years), all the assets and the divorce. If you don’t prevail against the false allegations of domestic violence, you will branded as a “wife beater”, an “angry, disgruntled man/father”, a “deadbeat”, an “outlaw”. You may also run the risk of being falsely accused of child abuse or child sexual abuse–a usual tactic by women (with the support and acknowledgement of radical women’s groups) and their lawyers. This accusation is like having the “A” stamped on your forehead. You will never be able to overcome the whispers of being a possible “child abuser” or “child molester”. This will follow you wherever you go. If your employer finds out about it , it will cost you your job.

4. You will find yourself impoverished by the corrupt lawyers, anti-male, gender biased judges and gov’t, to the point that you will be forced to live in your parent’s basement, a friend’s basement, or even your car. You will be lucky if you’re able to afford an apartment when the divorce process is completed.

5. You will start to suffer signs of Post-Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD), like a combat veteran who has seen to much action and death in war, because of the financial and emotional pounding you will receive from the Marxist Courts, your ex and her complicit attorneys. You will not be able to sleep, you will have nightmares if you do, you will be subjected to cold sweats, panic attacks, shortness of breath, etc. Some men will become alcoholics or drug abusers because they can no longer withstand the constant emotional & financial strain from the anti-male, gender-biased courts and government.

6. You will suffer this emotional and financial pain for anywhere between 10-20 years (a generation) depending on how old your children are, or if you have to pay excessive alimony.

If you don’t want to believe the above information, which is empirical evidence that can be found all over the internet, then go into your marriage with your eyes wide open and make sure you conceal as many assets (e.g, real estate, personal property, gun collections, collectible coins, stocks, bonds, other financial assets, etc.) as you can, and keep all real estate in your name only! Try not to put the other spouse on the deed of the house, especially if you had the real estate (and other real estate investments) prior to entering the marriage. Otherwise, you can lose it all in the divorce, either by transfer of property, or by forcing the sale to pay for excessive child support and/or alimony.

7. Pre-nuptial agreements DO NOT WORK in the family courts! So don’t bother to have one. Make sure if you have real estate before the marriage stay in your name, or put it in a trusted family member’s name, put it into private trust, or set up a corporation.

via “… no one can picture that same legal fate befalling Maria Shriver.” | Dr. Helen Smith.

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“Parental alienation syndrome”: It’s not a real disease, but some people want it to be. – By Dahlia Lithwick – Slate Magazine

Recently in the online magazine, Slate, appeared an article about Paternal Alienation Syndrome (PAS).  Many, many fathers can testify that this type of thing is common practice.  I’m usually not very sympathetic to any of these syndrome labels, since the labels themselves lead to so much abuse and insanity in the psychiatric field.  But what the writer of this article seems to miss is that when one parent consciously works to alienate a child from the father, she is committing a serious crime against the happiness and over all health of the child.   I believe it should be treated as a serious crime by the courts, not just something that divorcing parents do.  Most of the time, the father bends over backward to not say derogatory things, either to the child, or even to the judge in court, about the mother.  However, the same can not be said of mothers, as anyone who has spent any time in court knows.

The most worrisome aspect of the legal fight over parental alienation syndrome may be that it divides supporters and opponents along strict gender lines: As a rule, this is classed as a women’s sickness alleged by men. Fathers’ rights groups are not solely to blame for the fact that an entire “disease” is predicated on the notion that women are lying liars; the inventor of the syndrome can take responsibility for that. But no hypothesis so rooted in gender bias should be credited by medical science. And because evidence of PAS is so frequently offered to counter maternal allegations of abuse, the experts testifying about PAS can be aiding and abetting a system that takes children from abused mothers and hands them right back to abusive fathers. Once again, this doesn’t mean that some parents don’t alienate their children in a divorce. It means that PAS is now used to discredit women whenever they claim abuse.

Much of the blame for the biased history of PAS can be laid at the feet of its originator, Dr. Richard Gardner, who developed the theory—from his own practice and without clinical studies—of mothers who foster hatred for their children’s father as a ”powerful weapon” to grab custody for themselves. This wasn’t a theory born of objective empirical observation. It was a campaign against mothers rooted in the idea that they regularly lie and then “brainwash” their children into lying about paternal abuse. Because of Gardner’s gender-freighted conclusions, it was probably inevitable that men, in the form of fathers’ rights groups, would seize upon the battle to legitimize PAS. One of its most famous spokesmen became Alec Baldwin, who wrote practically a whole book on the subject in 2008, arguing paradoxically that corrupt judges and the courts have too much power over custody disputes and that by recognizing PAS, the courts could make the whole child-custody process more fair. (Here is Baldwin describing PAS as something women mainly do to men.)

Supporters of PAS argue largely from personal experience, and their stories are often compelling. But the theory of PAS is not recognized as valid by the American Psychological Association, the American Psychiatric Association, or the American Medical Association. And the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges has published guidelines for custody courts clarifying that “the theory positing the existence of ‘PAS’ has been discredited by the scientific community. Any testimony that a party to a custody case suffers from the syndrome or ‘parental alienation’ should therefore be ruled inadmissible and/or stricken from the evaluation report.”

via “Parental alienation syndrome”: It’s not a real disease, but some people want it to be. – By Dahlia Lithwick – Slate Magazine.

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