http://ancpr.com/2008/03/06/now-leader-calls-fathers-movement-dishonest-and-dangerous/ Alliance for Non-Custodial Parents Rights Wed, 16 May 2012 22:30:23 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 http://ancpr.com/2008/03/06/now-leader-calls-fathers-movement-dishonest-and-dangerous/#comment-6137 tsmyth Fri, 09 May 2008 18:19:49 +0000 http://ancpr.com/blog/2008/03/06/now-leader-calls-fathers-movement-dishonest-and-dangerous/#comment-6137 Tracie, that is the best statement I've read on this subject all year! You've stated the simple honest truth that most people refuse to acknowledge. Tracie, that is the best statement I’ve read on this subject all year! You’ve stated the simple honest truth that most people refuse to acknowledge.

]]> http://ancpr.com/2008/03/06/now-leader-calls-fathers-movement-dishonest-and-dangerous/#comment-6134 arbcqueen Mon, 05 May 2008 21:10:25 +0000 http://ancpr.com/blog/2008/03/06/now-leader-calls-fathers-movement-dishonest-and-dangerous/#comment-6134 VERY well stated, Tracie!!! VERY well stated, Tracie!!!

]]> http://ancpr.com/2008/03/06/now-leader-calls-fathers-movement-dishonest-and-dangerous/#comment-6127 TracieFrendo@yahoo.com Sat, 05 Apr 2008 00:47:43 +0000 http://ancpr.com/blog/2008/03/06/now-leader-calls-fathers-movement-dishonest-and-dangerous/#comment-6127 As a woman, I'm very disturbed by how women act in these situtations. So what if a father seeks 50% to reduce his expenses, it's a benefit if the children are spending equal times with both parents. It's hard not to take care of a child that is in your care. First of all these women need to quit being greedy. There are many benefits to this. You'll have free time to yourself and you'll save money on utilities, transportation, childcare, food, laundry, etc if the other parent is taking the child. Yes child support is needed but what's weird is women don't recognize that the other parent has to have a roof over their head as well. I've even had women tell me if a man can't afford it, then they need a 2nd job. I said sure only to have his support increased for making more money and if he's working two jobs when will he see the kids. Women complain when a man doesn't spend time with the child but if they try to they run you off. Sounds like these women want their cake and to eat it to. Maybe if they recognize that the reason it's easy for the men who don't pay to do so because out of site is out of mind. It's harder to deny a child when you spend time with them. If I say that they come back with statements like a man should own up to his responsibility it's the right thing to do. Well I'll say that once women recognize that it's always the right thing to allow a man to see the child at least 50% of the time and not alienate the child from the other parent. When they do that, then we can talk about right or wrong. Women are by nature full of drama, we are louder and more verbal, that's the root of the problem. Leave it to us to play victim in every situation. Well as a woman, I believe it's about what is fair to both parties and I can say this because I filed my own divorce by myself without a lawyer and had to fight the court to not make my exhusband pay child support. The 50% rule really helped, but let me tell you, when I need things for my kids, I ask that he pays half. I have no problems getting the assistance and my children have come through our divorce with flying colors because we didn't put them in the middle. I want my kids to have time with their father so they don't have the emotional problems later on. Their father isn't a bad person, we just were not meant to be together. Did he do things that made me angry at times, "yes" but that doesn't make him evil. If I made him pay what the support formula asked, he'd lose his home and my kids would have no where to visit him at. This would hurt them which would in turn hurt me. I don't understand the greed other than just that, greed and no care for the other person's well being. My favorite thing is if a woman brings a child into the world and has no job, they give her welfare, if she has a job she gets all types of assitance like medical insurance through the state, etc. If a man has no job, or makes a small income and he can't afford to pay he goes to jail. It's a double standard in my opinion. Especially when these women keep brining children into the world that they cannot afford to take care of. It's called neglect. As a woman, I’m very disturbed by how women act in these situtations. So what if a father seeks 50% to reduce his expenses, it’s a benefit if the children are spending equal times with both parents. It’s hard not to take care of a child that is in your care. First of all these women need to quit being greedy. There are many benefits to this. You’ll have free time to yourself and you’ll save money on utilities, transportation, childcare, food, laundry, etc if the other parent is taking the child. Yes child support is needed but what’s weird is women don’t recognize that the other parent has to have a roof over their head as well. I’ve even had women tell me if a man can’t afford it, then they need a 2nd job. I said sure only to have his support increased for making more money and if he’s working two jobs when will he see the kids. Women complain when a man doesn’t spend time with the child but if they try to they run you off. Sounds like these women want their cake and to eat it to. Maybe if they recognize that the reason it’s easy for the men who don’t pay to do so because out of site is out of mind. It’s harder to deny a child when you spend time with them. If I say that they come back with statements like a man should own up to his responsibility it’s the right thing to do. Well I’ll say that once women recognize that it’s always the right thing to allow a man to see the child at least 50% of the time and not alienate the child from the other parent. When they do that, then we can talk about right or wrong. Women are by nature full of drama, we are louder and more verbal, that’s the root of the problem. Leave it to us to play victim in every situation. Well as a woman, I believe it’s about what is fair to both parties and I can say this because I filed my own divorce by myself without a lawyer and had to fight the court to not make my exhusband pay child support. The 50% rule really helped, but let me tell you, when I need things for my kids, I ask that he pays half. I have no problems getting the assistance and my children have come through our divorce with flying colors because we didn’t put them in the middle. I want my kids to have time with their father so they don’t have the emotional problems later on. Their father isn’t a bad person, we just were not meant to be together. Did he do things that made me angry at times, “yes” but that doesn’t make him evil. If I made him pay what the support formula asked, he’d lose his home and my kids would have no where to visit him at. This would hurt them which would in turn hurt me. I don’t understand the greed other than just that, greed and no care for the other person’s well being. My favorite thing is if a woman brings a child into the world and has no job, they give her welfare, if she has a job she gets all types of assitance like medical insurance through the state, etc. If a man has no job, or makes a small income and he can’t afford to pay he goes to jail. It’s a double standard in my opinion. Especially when these women keep brining children into the world that they cannot afford to take care of. It’s called neglect.

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