Comments on: Excellent points by Glenn Sacks: Keeping Dads Away from Their Babies

By: paydaddy

paydaddy — Sun, 16 Mar 2008 18:38:02 +0000

Just keep fighting and going back to the courts ever give up in your case try a nothercourthouse its bad here in maryland also are court system in family law sucks

By: migram

migram — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 07:25:20 +0000

I am not a fellow father, but a step mother and the wife of a man I consider to be an outstanding father. Prior to our relationship, my husband had a son from a “one night stand”. When he discoverd he was the father and that the woman had delivered his child under the influence of methamphetamine, he took charge of his responsibility and began to raise a child he had no recent knowledge of creating. The “mother” pursued a life of drugs and other criminal activity for the past two years of the childs life. She has been sober for 8 months and the court decided that was plenty time to award her 50% custody of a child she does not know. Our baby was taken by her (and her parents who fund her lifestyle- she does not have a job, and has two other illegitimate children) crying and screaming that he did not want to go with these people. Our “judge”, Commissioner Schulte, decided that the proper place for this child was with his “biological” mother no matter what the circumstances. When is our justice system going to become just??? If anyone can give any advice it would be appreciated. We are heartbroken.

By: Dhouse

Dhouse — Wed, 05 Mar 2008 01:45:07 +0000

Without being as abusive as my experience would dictate, this “NYC Atty” apparently missed the point: if it weren’t some idiot judge ignorantly flailing away in favor of the “only mothers can handle babies” camp, and were, indeed, a family divided trying to work together, the real differences between infants and teenagers could be rationally addressed.
If the courts didn’t provide knee-jerk support for “mothers-as-parental-experts”, and worked to actually create shared parenting, supportive processes to resolve conflicts when children are small, divorced parents could conceivably “one their skills”…
Dream on.
My answer is Federal civil rights lawsuits, given that 100% of county-centered family courts have dollars from the Federal government, they are liable to the Constitution. The problem is that dads have to find the resources to pursue these torturous, length, expensive actions After most of the noise of their initial court-driven abuses have died down — and they are trying to regain and recapture whatever childhood’s are left.
Please read what you comment about.

By: NYC Family Law Attorney

NYC Family Law Attorney — Sun, 02 Mar 2008 20:08:09 +0000

I strongly disagree. A family “looking at an infant will have to make very different decisions than a family looking at a teenage boy”. I do believe that there are ways in which a family can hone their skills in parenting but that that should be up to that family.